I was reading about the different disaster stages & the continued care continuum. It was actually in reference to Sea Bright and how Mayor Long only half jokingly, said she’s abandoned her “DO” mantra and replaced it with “I feel like my head’s going to explode.”
I’m sure most of Highlands (at least the ones that have had homes that flooded) can relate.
According to the chart, which is disseminated by the Federal Emergency Management Agency, ‘disillusionment’ is the feeling that comes from understanding on just how far the road to recovery actually is, and just how alone you’ll be when you traverse it.
According to New Jersey Hope and Healing, what people like the Highlands flood survivors need, is information about what they’re going through and assurances that their feelings of doubt and fear and frustration are not only warranted, they’re to be expected.
The biggest component is the acknowledgement, that you have seemingly lost control. Think about it, flood insurance payments have been overly delayed and or lacking in substance. Local zoning, construction and town officials are delaying reconstruction by lack of information and jumping through numerous cumbersome hoops. Contractors are engaging in price gouging, juggling multiple projects and requiring micromanaging. You’re not even allowed to walk in the ‘distribution center’ aka the old firehouse because god forbid you see something you might need or want an extra tube of toothpaste. Then add trying to work a 40+ hour a week job to the mix and its amazing we all haven’t, what my brother would call, ‘had a nutty.”
Part of the healing process is knowing that you’re not alone. This in a weird way is normal. The good news is that the disillusionment will eventually level out.